You’re dying to connect with other people, but your conversation skills have always left something to be desired. As a result, you’ve come to feel to socially isolated and are constantly plagued by feelings of rejection. Fortunately, brushing up your conversational skills isn’t as daunting a task as you may think. The fine art of conversation may seem somewhat complex, but at its core, it’s very simple. If you’re ready to take your conversation skills to the next level, put the following tips into practice.
Respond to What Others Are Saying
When engaged in conversation, many people simply wait for their turn to speak without paying proper attention to what those around them are saying. This can give conversations a very awkward, disjointed feel and leave many of the participants feeling as though they haven’t been heard. To avoid this, make a point of responding to what those around you are saying instead of interjecting things that are in no way relevant to the topic at hand. If you wish to introduce a new topic, wait until the existing one has been sufficiently addressed. Keep in mind that you’re not the only one engaged in this conversation, and the fact that you wish to raise a certain topic doesn’t mean the rest of the group should have to drop the existing one.
It seems like every conversation has a serial interrupter. This person couldn’t less about whether or not someone else is talking – if he wants to interject a thought or opinion into the proceedings, he’s going to do it. Serial interrupters tend to make the rest of the group uncomfortable and hesitant to offer input. After all, if you’re just going to be unceremoniously interrupted, why bother speaking? Since they don’t value anyone else’s input and can’t even be troubled to show their friends common courtesy, no one likes serial interrupters. With that in mind, make an active effort to never interrupt the people with whom you’re speaking. No matter how much you want to share a certain thought, it can wait until the current speaker has said her piece.
Have Your Hearing Examined
Contrary to popular opinion, hearing problems are exclusive to the elderly. Additionally, no matter how old you are, being unable to properly hear is guaranteed to inhibit your conversation skills. If you suspect you’re suffering from hearing problems, don’t hesitate to schedule an appointment with an experienced hearing loss specialist. After undergoing a thorough examination, you’ll know the full extent of the problem and, if necessary, be prescribed a hearing aid. This will ensure that you’re clearly able to hear and respond to what your friends are saying.
Going through life with lackluster conversation skills can be emotionally devastating. It can also lead to immense depression, loneliness and isolation. If you’re ready to bid adieu to your days as a poor conversationalist, remember to respond to what others are saying, abstain from interrupting and, if need be, have your hearing checked out.